Oh girls. I'm telling you it is hard being a single girl out there these days. Anybody with me on that? My pastor, who is the most awesome pastor on the planet side note, wrote this post on his blog today and I just had to re-post it. He gives the best dating/relationship advice and shoots straight from the hip. You can watch our church online at http://www.newspring.cc/.
You Probably Should Not Date Him If....
Attention single ladies…dating is not a recreational sport, it’s a BIG DEAL and you are way more valuable than you could imagine. There is no such thing as the perfect guy, but you should consider the following warning signs and probably should not date him if…
#1 – He Uses The Phrase, “The Ball Is Now In Your Court!”
This usually means that he is tired of pursuing you…and so he is going to abdicate his role as the man and actually wants you to pursue him! DON’T DO IT!! You are worth the pursuit and if you wind up pursuing him now then he is, most likely, not going to pursue you after you get married. (And GREAT marriages always include pursuit…by the man!)
#2 – He Says He Has “Issues” But They Will Get Better Once You Are Married.
Marriage is a magnifier–period! If he is addicted to porn now it’s not going to disappear when you get married. If he has racked up a massive amount of debt on credit cards and is unwilling to address it and make changes then you are headed for a financial train wreck…and unfortunately bankruptcy and divorce LOVE to hang out together!
#3 – You Have To Tell Him To “Stop” Because He Is Making You Uncomfortable!
He should NEVER put you in that position. He is not struggling for purity if he isn’t fighting for it!
#4 – The Closer You Get To The Wedding The More Uninterested In You He Seems!
If he is slacking off in his efforts to make you feel special today…it’s not going to get better after the ceremony tomorrow!
#5 – You Only Know Him Through An Online Relationship
Anyone can be anyone online! You have no idea who that person really is until you have spent an extended amount of time with then. How do they handle anger? Hurt? Disappointment? DO NOT allow yourself to be swept away by a guy you don’t really know!!!
#6 – You Have To Talk Yourself Into Being With Him (enough said!)
#7 – You Have To Drag Him To Church (enough said!)
#8 – He Lies To You
Trust is HUGE…and, ONCE AGAIN please understand that it won’t “get better” when you get married!!! If he does not love and respect you to tell you to truth about him now…then you can’t trust him, period. And a relationship that is not built on trust will crash!